The process of planning a wedding can be very stressful. Unless you want a very simple day, there is going to be a lot to consider and arrange (and even if this is the case, there are still going to be elements that need to be organized well ahead of time), and although this can be fun and a process that many people enjoy, there is always going to be some form of stress related to it; certain aspects of the planning can go wrong, ideas can change, and problems can occur when you least expect it.
In order to stay calm when planning your wedding so that you can enjoy the experience and look forward to your big day, there are some important points to bear in mind. Take note of these and try to implement them where possible, and even the most difficult of challenges can be overcome.
Have A Budget
One of the biggest stresses associated with organizing a wedding is the money. There might be many different items you want to book and buy, but if you don’t know how much you can sensibly spend, it’s easy to spend far too much. If this happens, you will either need to scale back (and potentially lose deposits when you cancel various bookings) or you will need to find the money; possibly by borrowing it, which can lead to starting married life in a lot more debt than you would like.
Remember, your wedding is a special day, but it’s not worth giving yourself money issues over. In order not to stress about money, you need to have a budget in place right from the start, and that budget needs to be stuck to. If you carefully plan out exactly how much you can spend, you will find it much easier to book the different elements of the wedding because you’ll know you’re not overspending. It will also mean you can make better decisions and, in the end, have exactly the wedding you want.
Ask For Samples
Stress can also come when there are mistakes made in planning for your wedding. Whether the mistakes are yours or a supplier’s, the effect is still the same; you will be left feeling upset and unhappy, and you may even find you have wasted a lot of money that you can’t get back, so you have to change your plans altogether.
In order to stop this from happening as far as possible, always ask for samples. You can get samples of almost everything to do with your wedding, from sample wedding invitations, to cake, to flowers. Even if you can’t get a sample as such, you should always ask to see examples of previous weddings, which is useful when it comes to booking a photographer, a videographer, or even a venue. Seeing samples will give you a much better idea of what you are buying, and will help you to make the right choice.
Be Willing To Compromise
They say that marriage is all about compromise, so why not start with the planning of the wedding? You will be causing yourself more stress by trying to plan your perfect day because, as we all know, perfection does not exist. Instead, concentrate on planning a day you’ll remember forever and don’t worry about perfection. Problems will occur, changes will need to be made, and you will have to be adaptable in order to remain calm and collected.
Once you are married and look back at the day you just had, many of the small points just aren’t going to matter, and compromise can save you a lot of heartache overall.
Sylvia Browder is CEO of Specialty Home Services LLC, a Home Improvement Company; a Small Business Consultant at Browder Consulting Group, a startup consultancy firm to help women with startup assistance, marketing, website and graphic design work and other support services. In addition, she has co-authored several published books; publisher of ‘Sylvia Browder’s Blog for Women Entrepreneurs’ a lifestyle blog; and publisher of ShopSpendBlack.com Business Directory & Blog platform created to help consumers find black owned businesses in a searchable format. In her spare time, she enjoys spending time with her husband of 30 years; 5 adult children and 5 grandchildren; church; friends and motorcycle riding.
